Loving your spouse is not always easy but it is always necessary
if you want to move forward in your marriage.
As you know there is a difference between saying
“I love you” and doing things that actually show that
“I love you”.
Learning to love each other again takes a little bit of want to and know how.
So the question for you is, do you want to love your spouse again, the way you used to?
Can you look past all of the frustrations you have experienced and let your heartbeat again for
the one you committed to staying within sickness and in health until death do you part?
I trust that your answer is not yes but “heck yes”.
You see, learning how to love each other again starts with your mindset and attitude.
If you have a willing mind but an uncaring spirit or heart,
your goal of loving each other again is much harder to achieve.
Now, clearly you can’t just say it and magically your heart will be changed and love will be reborn in your marriage.
However, learning to love each other again also doesn’t have to take months or years.
The good thing is that you control the pace at which you learn how to love again.
Getting Started Loving Each Other Again
Chip away at the irritating behaviors – Most marriages aren’t destroyed over one big problem but a series of little ones that have been ignored over the years.
Regardless of our own perceptions of ourselves, we can easily become difficult to live with.
Two of the greatest weapons we use are our tongue and our stubbornness.
It’s hard to love someone who constantly tears you apart with criticism and sarcasm. In fact,
it’s hard to want to be in the same room most of the time. Start to scale back on your negative comments and replace
them with supportive ones and see how your frustrations with your spouse start to diminish.
Stop trying to change your spouse – If you can think back to your teen years when your parents tried to shape and mold you what did you think
“Oh, my parents love me and want the best for me
” or “
I can’t stand my parents for trying to make me into someone I’m not”.
In some instances, people grow to detest the person trying to change them.
The person you really want to change to get love back into your relationship is you.
Until you begin to change how you act and treat your spouse there is no incentive for your spouse to change.
You can choose to continue to try to change your spouse and push him or her further away
or change yourself and draw your spouse closer to you.
Be a friend again – One of the best ways to start loving each other again is get back that friendship that you once had.
During the early stages of your relationship, being kind, considerate and supportive was a natural behavior.
It was the right way to act then and it’s the right way to treat each other now.
How you treat each other now is probably not what either of you wants so why not make changes to go back to loving each other again,
like the earlier days in your relationship.